Everybody wants to be taken care of. : The strange, beautiful chemistry that binds two people together can make us blind to many faults. That’s good, because we certainly have faults of our own. Where things can turn sour, of course, is when we have to talk to our partners about spending, saving and investing. I find with my clients that one half of a couple usually takes the lead. The other person takes the back seat, content not to think about money at all. Thus it goes, sometimes for decades.